“Children notice differences,” she said. “Sometimes the easiest way to help socially is to reduce the thing that makes them stand out.”
I stared at her. “You mean the backpack.”
The teacher folded her hands. “It may help her fit in better.”
“And if she is very attached,” the counselor added, “that may be something worth exploring in counseling.”
That was the moment I understood—they weren’t going to help her.
Yes, she needed support in dealing with grief. But they were using that as an excuse to ignore the bullying.
They were asking me to change my daughter… instead of addressing the cruelty around her.
I left feeling sick.
And things only got worse after that.

One afternoon, Alice came home and walked straight to her room without even saying hello.
I followed her down the hallway.
“Baby?”
She stopped but didn’t turn around.
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