They were large hands, scarred and rough at the knuckles from years of work, but surprisingly careful in the small things. The way he tied my shoelaces when I was little. The way he wrapped birthday gifts as if the corners of the paper mattered. The way he held the backs of chairs for older women at church and adjusted picture frames in hotel rooms because it bothered him when things hung crooked. He was a construction engineer, solidly middle class, the kind of man who never confused love with grand speech. He showed up. He fixed things. He remembered dates. He attended every parent-teacher conference with a notebook. He made pancakes on Saturdays and oversalted eggs every Sunday because he always forgot the cheese already had enough salt in it.
When I think of him now, I do not think first of the day he died.
I think of the beach.
One windy afternoon on the Jersey Shore, I was ten years old and furious because another girl had laughed at the way my swimsuit straps sat crooked on my shoulders. I had spent twenty minutes sulking into my knees under a striped towel while the ocean beat itself flat and silver against the shoreline. My father came over with two paper cups of lemonade and sat beside me without speaking for a while.
Finally, he said, “You know what the tide never does?”
I looked at him because he always talked like that right before saying something that sounded silly and ended up mattering later.
“What?”
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